Monday, March 21, 2011


I just had a moment of true confession with my husband about a struggle I have with family.  There is part of me that loves everything family and I dream about day trips and vacations with the 5 of us where we giggle and laugh and take crazy photos and soooo enjoy one another’s company.  I want to be super content being with just my family and no one else.  I want to be totally fulfilled in their presence and just live and breathe my family and my role as mother.  Then there is the other part of me.  The part that is all about me.  The part that dreams about fulfilling my selfish desires of waking up on a Saturday morning around 8am, making a hot tea and grabbing a bunch of magazines to read while back in my bed with my tea.  I dream of spending my day anyway I want to, alone, happy.  I don’t have to cook for anyone, I don’t have to clean anything, I don’t need to drive anywhere – I can just be.  Sounds kinda normal for moms right?  This struggle between total self sacrifice and self indulgence!  But my problem goes beyond that – it becomes my desire to escape.  When Friday rolls around I start plotting and scheming errands I “need” to do while my husband is home with the kids on the weekend.  I make plans with girlfriends, hope and pray for a baby shower or birthday or event for ladies only!  I try to find a reason to escape.  I know there is nothing wrong with getting away and even the desire to get away and have some time alone.  But I hate that it has become a mission of mine.  I hate that I’m always crafting an escape plan.  As if my family is something I need to escape from every weekend.  I want to desire getting away because I truly need to accomplish something or recharge.  But I don’t want to always be running away just to indulge my selfish desires (that are usually something lame like going to the market so I can buy and hide another box of girl scout cookies!)  I guess I was just confessing my life long struggle with selfishness.  I’m asking God to change my heart so that I can enjoy the blessing of my family on the weekends, and silence the lies of the enemy that tells me I need and deserve to escape.
*I'm linking up with Hillary at Capturing Motherhood - being honest that I'm not perfect and struggle with the desire to escape my family sometimes.


  1. One day, I needed an escape. I was heartbroken and torn because it almost seemed like to escape my life as "mommy" I also had to escape my life as "wife". In order to "run away," hubby had to be home... there are times I don't wanna run away from him... or to have my relationship with him suffer by running away... yet as a WOMAN (not a mom and wife) I need to get away. I say all this to say, you are not alone. It's a struggle I find myself fighting often. I want to be able to enjoy my kids...not just ensure they survive from morning til bedtime so that I've "done my job" as a SAHM. I pray too, that I can "enjoy the blessing of my family" .... rather than try to escape it at every opportunity!

  2. Amen! Amen! Amen! If I keep going I could say amen probably 100 times more. You've hit the nail right on the head. This need to escape is a big struggle for me too. Would you mind terribly if I used it tomorrow on my blog; at least in part? I would definitely link it up to yours.

  3. You spoke my mind. Mothering is taxing. It's worth it at the end of the day, but a mom does need a break every now and then. I'm afraid I don't escape often enough, and I'm constantly hovering.....

    I need an escape..and I don't feel guilty for that, you shouldn't either. Moms are def better at their "job" when they're well rested, and able to take some "me-time". I'm your newest follower. Found your blog @ Capturing Motherhood. =)

  4. oh man. how i can relate. yikes. it's such a balance and a battle! thanks for being so honest and for linking up!!

  5. Hmmm... this all sounds SOOO familiar. My lifelong battle with selfishness sometimes seems magnified by motherhood, and ultimately I think that is because motherhood is the exact opposite of selfishness. Perhaps that is why God chose you to be a mother. Amazing that He knows all of the sin in our hearts, and yet accepts us as His servants anyway. I think that it is normal and expected for mothers to FEEL like that - but it is what we do with that FEELING that pleases or displeases God.

  6. I love your honesty in this post! Many women feel this way and just never share it! Being a mom is a huge job and huge balance!



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